“The grass isn’t always greener on the other side; the grass is greener where you water it.”
Ugh. I hate clichés.
But you know the cliché about clichés? They’re probably only clichés because they’re true.
I have been learning for a while the truth of the aforementioned cliché. So here it is: life always sucks. Yes there are wonderful moments, but take it from an eternal optimist; there will always be underlying issues and problems that we can only escape from or forget for so long.
Because of this ugly truth, it is very comfortable to live in the future. We like to pin our hopes on the unseen because we don’t know what to expect, and anything is better than right now, right? Wrong.
I’m sure we all had dreams of growing up and getting old as kids. We would finally have power, stay up as late as we want and eat ice cream whenever we so desired. Little did we know that with great power comes great responsibility, late nights are more exhaustingly draining than they are fun as they are usually accompanied by tremendous workloads, and ice cream just makes you fat.
I have fallen prey to the myth of the grass being greener on the other side. This has resulted in disillusionment, unhappiness and disappiontment. I think I may still believe in it right now. I am in matric and its hard. It is not always a good time and it is easy to lose sight of what is important. It is easy to dwell on the future and live vicariously through 21 year old me.
I don’t want to do that. This is a wake up call for me. I’m only where I am today because I stood up and chose to water my grass and accept my circumstances. Once I accepted what life handed me I was able to take action and make the most of where I was. I am working hard at relationships and priorities; I am watering them so that they can grow. It has made my life so much better and so much more enjoyable. I am choosing to change something when I don’t like it.
When I feel left out? I invite myself in. When I don’t like the way a relationship is headed? I confront the issues. When I have no motivation? I cry a lot and then I get my act together.
By no means am I a pro at getting this right. Not even a little bit. But I’m learning and I’m honestly trying. I’m learning that if things suck either it is my fault or I have no control over it. By changing the things that I don’t like and letting go of the things that I can’t change, I’m slowly making my grass greener. I don’t want to become dry and shrivelled because I forget that I have access to life-giving water.
There are only two things we need to water our grass:
1. Water. We need to figure out what that water is specifically, but it almost always means change.
2. We need to get up, fetch the water and use it. We know where it is. We have access to the source, so let’s get moving.
The grass is green where you water it.